Category Archives: new year

2023

Word of the year: Lighten

Why: By definition lighter in weight, pressure, or severity. Make or become more cheerful.

Since the end of October 2022 I’ve been on a wellness journey. Until Christmas I’d been steady in the gym 2-3x a week and have lost and maintained a 20lb weight loss. I’m working to continue down this path of lightening in weight- to help my confidence. It’s for me. Not for anyone else. I need to learn some of the other weight machines- they terrify me if I’m being honest, but in 2023 I will learn at least 3 of these new machines.

I believe mental health is an incredible piece of life you have to work at daily, and my current state requires that I remove anything that makes me feel anxious or pressured instead of joy and happiness. Some of my current relationships for instance feel tedious to maintain instead of exciting. I’m not myself in those relationships because of that pressure and I need to either communicate my stance better or decide to let those relationships go.

I need to lighten my life of “goods”. I’ve acquired far more “things” than one needs to live life. Consumerism is great economically however I am slowing my involvement in the fashion industry and purging what I do not wear. In general I’ll be purging items I own that I do not wish to take with me in my next home.

I spent 2022 trying to figure out how to spark joy in my side business again. I went to several retreats, events, and believed I wanted certain things at the time. I maintained consistent in my personal piece but I needed reflection and to pull back and look big picture at what was causing me to feel like nothing I did was good enough. I didn’t set enough boundaries- even after establishing boundaries. I let customers walk on them. In 2023 the key to my happiness may be to fire customers. And that’s okay. I need to communicate to my customers better about how the online shipping works and how pick up works. Less deliveries. I cut back on events- it’s a lot of work to do and I only want to do the ones that yield higher results. I rather work 1:1 than carry a ton of stock in my home.

So I’m going to stick to my 2-3x a week gym sessions, add in learning 3 new machines. I’m going to downsize my wardrobe, belongings, purge excess items. I’m going to move in 2023 and live alone for the first time in a LONG time. I’m going to work on being even more communicative in my relationships, and I’m going to help less, and mainly if asked and able. In my business I’m going to focus on beating my last years numbers and clearing out stock from my home. I’m going to gift collected benefits instead of sit on items to sell and storing them. I’m going to talk to more people about the direct ship options so I don’t find myself driving an hour round trip plus to deliver a 30$ set of wax melts with the cost of gas.

That’s 2023 for me ❤

xo, Kel

Wasting my time….

Friendships are not hard. Relationships are not hard. In fact it’s so simple that we make them SO much more difficult. I’m a pretty direct person most of the time. There ARE times when I need to think before I say something important and that takes time but most the time it’s quick. SO here it goes: I don’t need my friends to text me daily, call me daily, reach out daily in any way. I need my friends to show up to plans they make with me, not make vague loose plans with me, and respect my time.

In my life TIME is my greatest gift to you. I could be spending that time on myself, making money, going to the gym, learning a new hobby- enriching. Instead I’m giving it to you because I want to spend that time with you. Showing up late without calling, texting or cancelling when I’m on my way is rude- doing it more than once is insulting. The number of times it’s happened to me is embarrassing because I let it happen. It won’t happen in 2023. The answer will just simply be- sorry, no.

I care too much about others and I USED to people please. We’re not doing that in 2023. The helper is burnt out folks. She doesn’t want to do things for people that won’t help themselves, that take advantage of her kindness, and who never appreciate it when she does help. 2023 is about lack of effort for others and more effort towards myself.

If you want to find me in 2023 I’ll be in the gym, reading a book, talking to my friends that do prioritize me and not dealing with people for lead me on in both a friendship or relationship possible scenario.