Friendships are not hard. Relationships are not hard. In fact it’s so simple that we make them SO much more difficult. I’m a pretty direct person most of the time. There ARE times when I need to think before I say something important and that takes time but most the time it’s quick. SO here it goes: I don’t need my friends to text me daily, call me daily, reach out daily in any way. I need my friends to show up to plans they make with me, not make vague loose plans with me, and respect my time.

In my life TIME is my greatest gift to you. I could be spending that time on myself, making money, going to the gym, learning a new hobby- enriching. Instead I’m giving it to you because I want to spend that time with you. Showing up late without calling, texting or cancelling when I’m on my way is rude- doing it more than once is insulting. The number of times it’s happened to me is embarrassing because I let it happen. It won’t happen in 2023. The answer will just simply be- sorry, no.

I care too much about others and I USED to people please. We’re not doing that in 2023. The helper is burnt out folks. She doesn’t want to do things for people that won’t help themselves, that take advantage of her kindness, and who never appreciate it when she does help. 2023 is about lack of effort for others and more effort towards myself.

If you want to find me in 2023 I’ll be in the gym, reading a book, talking to my friends that do prioritize me and not dealing with people for lead me on in both a friendship or relationship possible scenario.

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